I'm Brenda S. Parris. In August 1994, I quit graduate school at Florida State
and came home to Alabama to take care of my mother who had Alzheimer's Disease.
I took care of her until the end of December 1995 when we put her in a nursing home.
Then she died in April 1996.
I want to share all the information I can find about this disease because I know that knowledge
is essential to being a good caregiver. Even those who are not caregivers need to know about
this disease because almost everyone knows someone who has Alzheimer's, and probably most of
us are at risk for getting it ourselves.
I began this web site in July 1996. Less than two months later, at the end of August 1996,
it was awarded "Best Homepage of the Year" by My Internet Services Provider,
HiWAAY Information Services in Huntsville, Alabama.
Since then, there have been numerous Awards and
Reviews, many of which I'd never expected. Many people
have written asking permission to use some of My Poems,
and they have been published in caregiving newsletters across the country. I've
also had the opportunity to write an article for
Caregiving Newsletter, telling about how I
came to begin my web site and how I've found support and help in my grief through the Internet.
In 2001, because so many had asked about getting it in printed form, I published my story as told here in my book
Waiting for the Morning. In 2004, I was asked to tell me story in an article for
The American
Journal of Alzheimer's Disease and ohter Dementias, which was a great honor.
Working on my web page was my way of dealing with my grief in those months following
my mother's death. Through it I have come to know so many wonderful caring people,
though I may never meet them in person. The Alzheimer list, the CANDID chat, the
people with Alzheimer's and Caregiving homepages,
those who have Contributed Poetry--all of these
as well as online grief support groups/sites, and so many who have emailed me
or signed my guestbook--have given me comfort and support for which I am forever grateful.
I was not able to return to graduate school for over a year, but I returned in January 1998
to begin working on my remaining twelve semester hours. I commuted a six-hour round-
trip most of the year for my classes at the University of Alabama in Tuscaloosa while working
two part-time positions in Decatur, Alabama. In December 1998, those twelve hours transfered
back to Florida State, and I graduated. In 1999 I was accepted the position of Technical
Services/Reference Librarian at Calhoun Community College, where I will have been for 25 years
as of the fall semester 2024.
I hope that you find something at this site that will help you, whatever you are going
through. I welcome your comments and suggestions, or if you just want to email me about
your situation. Though I may be slow in responding sometimes, I do try to respond to everyone,
so please feel free to email me at any time.
Thank you.
Brenda
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My Advice to Caregivers
Cherish your person with Alzheimer's,
hold their hand, say "I love you",
comfort them when they are confused,
love them when they are angry.
It may be the hardest thing you've
ever done, but these days won't last.
Try to please them, to make them happy
in spite of the disease.
Things will go smoother, both of you
will be happier, and you will know
you've done your best--
with memories to cherish
for the rest of your life.
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